Husband Not Talking
I wonder if anyone can help? My husband has been told there is no further treatment for him after 2.5 years with stage 4 cancer. He doesn’t know how long he has left and won’t ask (which I respect completely). All practical aspects of his will and wishes are done. The problem is he won’t talk about how he feels, what he wants from the rest of his life, how long he thinks he has, or anything really!
We had a fantastic relationship until now, and I am so desperately sad this is happening to him. I really want to make the most of our time, but he seems to think I’m just being demanding. He is angry and resentful and I’m truly worried that this is how it will be until he dies, in which case our memories will be of this awful time.
I tell him that I am so sad about it all and he seems to think “oh it’s all about you isn’t it?”. Don’t I have the right to be sad and worried for the future?
Hoping someone might know what I’m on about?!!
Incidentally, we are on holiday in Italy (very likely our last holiday) and there’s no sun, he is refusing to do anything and it’s my 50th birthday tomorrow - yes I feel fed up!