Hi all. Not sure where to begin really. My wife (34) and I moved to York about 18 months ago from London. We have a three year old son who is amazing. We tried for a baby in the summer and became pregnant in September. In October we lost our rental home and had a miscarriage. We were in a position to look at buying so we started that process and decided to temporarily move in with her parents.
Around Christmas time she started getting tummy pains after eating but that was it, she also started getting back pains and tiredness, but so did I so we chalked it up to (you guessed it) IBS and a bad mattress. My wife works hard and with our son getting a GP appointment was time consuming. She finally got one booked mid Feb but it was a 3 week wait. In that time she started to develop more sinister symptoms, like getting full quickly and dropped appetite and a little weight loss. She got a blood test which threw up slightly raised LFT inflammatories.
Her Dad is a retired GP and suspected gall stones so fed her lines on what to say to get An ultrasound. We were in the final stages of completing on our first house. And due to being under investigation could not secure life insurance. We ended up paying for a private ultrasound. After the ultrasound she gotta call from the GP to come in. My mother in law took her in and I stayed in to work. They got back and called us into the lounge, my wife looked fine but a bit blank. Her Mum sat down and then crumpled saying the ultrasound showed metastases. I’m a failed medical student but I know enough to know what it means. My wife was in shock. I just want to walk into the sea and end it all but have to keep going for her and my son.
Since then she has dwindled before my eyes. Endless tiredness, liver pain, constipation, no appetite. Colonoscopy revealed a small 2cm primary in the sigmoid, CTfound lots of nodal spreading and mets in the liver. I don’t know how many mets but her liver function is good and her Dr says he wants to treat it aggressively as she is fit. Waiting to hear back from the biopsy results to see if she can have a third immuno drug that improves efficacy.
I’m completely heart broken. My wife already followed bowelbabe on twitter and says she knows the statistics. But I don’t and I’m too terrified to look based on how she talks about it. It feels our best case scenario is 5 years together which is still a complete tragedy to me. Feel so cheated and angry and the idea of her not seeing our amazing son grow up makes me weep constantly. How can I possibly get through this?
I could say more but conscious this is becoming like War & Peace.