Coping with family relationships
I'm really struggling with my feelings of what others should be doing to help my father. He's always struggled with life as he has some mental challenges. And several of the family members I think feel like they've told him what they think they should do and he doesn't listen so its 'his problem'. I feel like they are just washing their hands of it to feel better about it themselves. It's not just his cancer treatment they react to like this but many of his life circumstances.
I feel like he is ultimately a man who's not coped with life and needs help - don't we all from time to time?!?!
He is an intense person who struggles with relationships, he's single, lives alone has one supportive brother and another one who's seems to have forgotten him now that he needs help. He needs a lot of help dealing with the services he needs to access as he's unemployed too.
My sister lives away and they don't have a close relationship but she was happy to take a loan from him in the past when she needed it to help her journey (she's now very comfortable). She is involved via me but doesn't seem to want to spend time with him, she has a lot on admittedly at the moment, her father in law sick but she's ok with going to see them all the time at the minute.
I feel like this is eating me all up and straining my relationships. Even with my own husband, who I was there for when he lost his brother a few years back. My husband did let my father live with us part time a while back but said that can't happen again, which I understand. But when I try and talk to him he cuts my off and just says don't worry about it, if your sister doesn't want to see your dad etc it's her problem. But my dad is blocking her out as she doesn't agree with his treatment choices.
I just worry about him all the time and want to fix it all and go back to happier times 2 years ago.
I don't know what to do and am crying as I type this.