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Gary12345

Really bad news

Hey everyone just catching up with my Dads situation very sad news . So the scan on the lungs confirmed spread to the lung. But that's not even the worst of it . His wound isn't getting better and he had a small surgery on it Cause they were trying to drain it" but with no luck. The nurse told me the colorectal surgeon is very suspicious of the wound and lumpyness and how its all inbeded together in the skin and they think the cancer is back in the rectum. The nurse said it isn't getting any better they've tried different types of antibiotics with no improvement...So they've taken 4 swabs from it . My dad has a heart of a Lion. ...Honestly its absolutely heart breaking he's the most selfless person I've ever known and to see him like a war wounded man breaks my heart . The nurse said he had a cigarette the other day for the first time in 5months and he broke down in tears . He doesn't even know the extent of it all .The nurse said all he wants is to come home and then a decision has to be made about continuing antibiotics that aren't working cause the wound continues to break down. If any of you ever watched heartbeat my dad would remind you of Dave in it. He's soo soft hearted and kind . The surgeon did say risks of getting the total pelvic exenteration and thats why he wasn't keen on doing it . Because of my dads cancer was soo aggressive even with treatment and it has such a poor pathology biology..... And even if the swabs came back not cancer they would still suspect the cancer is back in the rectum. I don't know what think or do. I said to the stoma nurse what about Dublin or any specialist and she said honestly Gary the wound is that bad she doesn't think anyone would go back into it .

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@Gary12345 your on an incredibly hard path watching your lovely dad, I’m so sorry, I haven’t any answers but just wanted to pop an arm around your shoulder lovely :x::x:

Siona

oh @Gary12345 I'm so sorry for your dad and for what you are all going through. Maybe worth asking a specialist about the wound despite what the nurse said, I mean, she told you what to expect but there is nothing to lose in having a second opinion.
Sending tons of hugs :x::x::x:

Lirio345

Morning @Gary12345, I am so very sorry to hear what your lovely Dad has been going through. I agree with @Siona that a second opinion is definitely worth pursuing, even if they agree with the current plan. Take very good care, Kim :x::x:

Jane39

I am sorry to hear this news @Gary.
Thinking of you both,
Jane :x:

Frances Styles

@Gary12345, your post breaks my heart, this is such a cruel disease. I agree with @Siona, you have nothing to lose getting a second opinion, even if they agree it will give you peace of mind. Love to you and your lovely Dad, Frances :x::x::x:

Liz Blakelands

@Gary12345 so very sad to read your post, it is a really cruel disease and sometimes the fates conspire again you. Sending love and hugs to you and your Dad, Liz :x::x:

Gary12345

@Molly2me @Siona @Lirio345 @Jane39 @Frances Styles @Liz Blakelands Thanks everyone ♥ I hope all you guys are keeping well bless you all .....I think i will have to try look into a second opinion or some sort of specialist that might have a different approach or opinion. Will keep it posted 🤞

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Hope .... small but amazing word, wishing you and your dad some new eyes and ideas on this, take special care :x::x::x: @Gary12345

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@Molly2me @Siona @Lirio345 @Jane39 @Frances Styles @Liz Blakelands Thanks everyone ♥ I hope all you guys are keeping well bless you all .....I think i will have to try look into a second opinion or some sort of specialist that might have a different approach or opinion. Will keep it posted 🤞

Bobs74

Thinking of you @Gary12345 - i agree with everyone else, try a second opinion. Sending love :x::x:

louise28

im so sorry @Gary12345 i really feel like a second opinion may be in order. Seems crazy to me that they cant get plastics or wound experts involved :x::x::x: